What does secure love feel like to you?
If you've experienced moments of secure attachment, what word best describes the feeling?
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Realised I'm anxiously attached and it explains everything
I always thought I was just 'intense' in relationships. Turns out there's a whole framework for it. I check my phone constantly when my girlfriend hasn't replied. I interpret silence as reje...
Jealousy is showing me what I'm afraid of losing
I've been doing a lot of work on my jealousy in therapy and the biggest shift has been reframing it. My therapist asked me: 'What are you really afraid of when the jealousy comes up?' And th...
How I'm learning to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety
One of the hardest things about anxious attachment is figuring out whether your gut feeling is actual intuition or just your anxiety talking. They feel almost identical in the body. Here's...
Caught myself people-pleasing in my relationship again
He asked where I wanted to eat and I said 'whatever you want!' even though I really wanted sushi. Such a small thing but it's the pattern I'm trying to break. Next time I'm just going to say...
Therapists Review Attached book by Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller
Why the 'wrong' person feels so right – and the 'right' person feels boring
There is an unconscious tendency to recreate the emotional dynamics of our earliest relationships in adult partnerships. If love felt like anxiety and longing as a child – because a caregive...
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Understanding attachment patterns in romantic relationships – anxious, avoidant, disorganised, and secure. Jealousy, reassurance dynamics, protest behaviours, and the journey toward earned security.
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