15 Types of Healthy Boundaries And How To Communicate Them
Setting healthy boundaries means establishing your limits regarding what you're comfortable with and what you're not in a relationship or situation. These boundaries can be physical, emotional, or mental – essentially the rules or guidelines you set for yourself about how you allow others to treat you. This article walks through 15 different types of healthy boundaries and how to communicate them for a better life.
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great link. i didn't realise there were so many different types. i always just thought of boundaries as saying no to people but the emotional and time boundaries section really opened my eyes
The material boundaries section is the one I needed to hear. I'm terrible at lending things and then resenting people for not returning them. That's a me problem, not a them problem.
recognising that pattern is half the battle honestly. and it's not about never lending things – it's about being honest with yourself about what you're actually comfortable with before you say yes
the digital boundaries part is interesting. i never thought of not replying to messages straight away as a boundary but it makes sense. i always feel pressure to respond immediately even when i'm not in the right headspace.
same. i feel so guilty if i don't reply within like ten minutes. but that's not sustainable is it
not at all. you're allowed to reply when you're ready. the urgency you feel is usually about the other person's expectations, not an actual emergency. giving yourself permission to respond on your own timeline is a completely valid boundary
i think the emotional boundaries section is probably the hardest one for most people in this group. the idea that you don't have to absorb someone else's feelings – that took me a long time to understand. you can care about someone without carrying their emotions for them
This. I used to think being a good friend meant feeling everything they felt. Turns out that's just codependency.
codependency is a big word but you're spot on. caring about someone and merging with their emotional state are two very different things. boundaries protect your ability to actually show up for people long-term
the carrying other people's emotions thing is so real. working on this one
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