Does anyone else replay every social interaction for hours afterwards?
I just learned this is called 'post-event processing' and it's a really common feature of social anxiety. That thing where you cringe at everything you said, convince yourself everyone thought you were weird, replay the awkward pause seventeen times. Turns out it's a pattern, not reality. Knowing that hasn't stopped it completely, but it's helped me catch it and say 'oh, this is the thing' instead of believing every cringey thought.
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Oh my god, HOURS? Try days! I once replayed an awkward handshake for an entire week. Knowing it has an actual name – post-event processing – has helped me so much though. Now when it starts I can go 'this is the thing' instead of falling into it.
An awkward handshake for a WEEK – I feel so seen right now! Yes, naming it really does help. It doesn't stop it but it puts a tiny bit of distance between you and the spiral.
the seventeen times thing isn't even an exaggeration for me. glad to know it's a real pattern and not just me being weird.
Definitely not just you. It's one of the most common features of social anxiety. Your brain is trying to 'learn from mistakes' but it's running the analysis on distorted data. You're not weird – your threat detection system is just overactive.
I used to do this after every single conversation. Every one! Now I catch it maybe 50% of the time. Progress not perfection. The video is really good too!
Something that helps me with this: I ask myself 'would I remember this moment if someone else did it?' The answer is almost always no. Other people aren't replaying your awkward pause – they're too busy replaying their own!
Thank you all for sharing. It's genuinely comforting to know I'm not alone in this. The video explains the science behind it really well if anyone wants to understand the mechanism.
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